I keep cutting and i cant stop. its become so addictive, but i really want to stop :( and my scars from last month still havent healed, what can I do?
Anonymous
Its all about will power. if you want to stop as bad as your saying, you need to tell yourself this. hide whatever you use to cut ourself with or throw it away, and that way it might make it less of a temptation for you? I had the same problem, i got creative and made posters, and signs and printed and cut out pictures from magazines and websites which i thought would help motivate me to stop and make me feel better about myself when i saw them, and stuck them onto the back of my bedroom door like a big collage so whenever i wake up or im going out my room, since my doors normally shut i would see them and it would help me realise that i dont want to be like that, and that i deserve better, and that i was actually strong enough to stop. do you know what? i dont have them up anymore, because it worked! and i no longer have to turn to my bedroom door to find motivation to not do it when i tempted or to stop because i find it within myself. and you should maybe try the same, it might sound silly but it worked for me, so its worth a try right? and yeah about the cuts that havent healed, it might take a while mine still havent properrly healed yet either, i just make sure i wash them properlly everyday and sometimes apply an antiseptic cream like savlon or something to them! and then use like a braclet to cover them up, but if you want them to go away quicker your doctor should be able to provide you with some kind of cream that will help them fade quicker! but please remember, you dont have to hurt yourself, or suffer in silence. im here to listen, and i will NEVER judge you. please stay strong? for me?
Okay, my friend told this girl that I like her -- and I'm a girl. Sometimes she shows signs that she likes me too. Today she hugged me and said she loved me. Other times when we're sitting next to each other, she sits really close like our shoulders bump together. I like it, but I really want to know how she feels. What should I do?
Anonymous
I think she’s shown an interest, but you’re right — how do you really know if she’s just playing a game with you, or she’s sincere? I think the best thing to do is try to spark up a friendship, rather than go out on a limb thinking she feels the same as you, only to be shut out when the chips are down. As well, I know it’s common these days for girls to test their sexuality, but you’d really have to know this is a road you’d want to go down before you embark on it. I get many letters from bi-curious teens (assuming you are a teen) and, often times, the desire fades or they try the experience and it fizzles out. That’s okay, but you’d have to be sure that’s what you really want because teenagers do talk, can be horribly mean, people get labeled, and you could be biting off more than you can chew. Think hard, no hasty moves, and friendship first.
right, well um i caught my bestfriends boyfriend cheating on her with one of my other best friends, i dont want them both to fall out with me or anything, but i dont want them to get hurt, but i know telling them what i saw will hurt them too, but i would feel really bad if they found out that i knew and didnt tell them, please help? what should i do!
Anonymous
You should try talking to the best friend that’s cheated on your other best friend, if that makes sense? After all he/she should understand because your sort of stuck in the middle here so your probably under a lot of pressure, but you shouldn’t be, just do what you thinks right and follow your instincts there hardly ever wrong :)
Once you’ve talked to the friend show cheated on your other friend, I think you should both try and arrange a time to talk to the friend who was cheated on, but you and the friend who cheated on them should do it together, but you need to support your friend that’s cheated on your other friends desicion, wether you agree with it or not, remember its their choice yes advise them but let them choose, and just be there for the friend that been cheated on and help her get through the result of the friend that cheated on thems desicion..
Wow that’s confusing I hope you understand it okay.. Good luck though :)
My best friend doesnt spend as much time with me anymore? and i miss her? she made a new group of friends and they went up town together and she didnt even invite me?, we havent spoken properlly in 3 weeks? and we used to with each other all the time, when i text her she either ignores it or replys with short anooying messages? i dont know what to do? i want her back.
Anonymous
Hey sweety, have you tried talking to her? but remember aswell, its good to take a break from each other once in awhile, you two might be best friends but she is aloud to have other friends and hang out with other people for a change :), im sure she still likes you just as much as you like her, tell her you miss her and if shes ignroing your texts, then try mailing her on facebook? or write her a letter?, just explain to her that yous havent spoken in a while and that you would love to meet up again sometime soon? if shes your bestfriend and sure she wouldnt mind meeting up with you , and if she does you can explain to her then how much you miss her. good luck
Okay, so I think my boyfriend likes this other girl?, he like keeps talking to her and is always with her instead of me?, he talks to me and that, but i just think he likes her more than me? i dont want to ask him incase he thinks im jelous ( which i am) but i dont want him to know that? what should i do?
Anonymous
Hey :), well first of all, you should never be scared to tell him how you feel, a good realationship works with trust, you have to trust him. it might seem hard, but confronting him and explaining to him how you feel will work wonders!, but dont do what i did and acuse him of fancying/likeing her, i dont that with my ex and he got pissed and dumped me. so yeah, just explain to him that you noticed hes been spending more time with her instead of you and explain that you are a little jelous, admitting the truth to him will make him think more of you than lying to him, even if you are a little jelous tell him, im sure he will understand? just be honest with him :)
